If you are intended for marriage, you rest on the hope that being married has a significant hand in transforming you into the best version of you attainable. While you are being transformed into your best by your spouse you do the same for them; transforming them into their best. This is unity.
We’ve been talking quite a bit about information. Information by visual art, Information by words spoken, Information by words written. In order to achieve the type of change we want to create in this world we have to master communication. This requires quick adaptation in unfamiliar social situations, confidence in the words we speak and effeciency for those that don’t have the attention span to listen for long (thank you MTV). This effectiveness in communication also reaps positive results in the context of a marriage. You speak the words you mean. The removal of personal agenda.
This all may seem absolutely obvious. Some people would most likely say that “that is the way it ought to be; I’d love to live my life honestly, but the world doesn’t work like that, be realistic”. I’m learning that the world is really what you make of it. If you are truly alive you have the ability to create anything you want to see. It makes all the difference when you speak with your spouse (or anyone for that matter) and they truly listen because they are assured in knowing that you are truly listening to them. And this looks like conversations that don’t have responses that only piggyback on your words to prove the other persons point. In conversation, I will listen to what you speak and I will trade with you the words I intend to speak; and this will benefit us both.
I’m about halfway through ‘Atlas Shrugged’ and I recently read a speech by one of the characters in the book about the nature of money. He talked much about how money is the symbol that represents trade among men. As he was talking about this I was thinking that this is true for money as well as truth. I work quite hard to attain the truth I know, it’s a process that is as intellectually taxing as it is emotionally, so the words I give you are the payment for the words I hope to get from you. I want the best so I’m willing to do all I can to give you the best. I want the environments that we create to be filled with people of this ethic.
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