It almost makes sense when people want to pull their bandages off slowly. Almost. The common assumption is that the slower you go the less it will hurt.
We both know though that, sadly, this isn’t the case. What always happens is that when you take your time you are doubling the pain that you would experience more intensely only for an instant. This said, it makes logical sense to go the quicker but more painful route every. single. time.
But this doesn’t happen always does it?
Is it that we are all secretly masochists? No, I hardly ever think that is the case. What I think it comes down to is that the natural inclination in most people is that they think that this very quick and intense pain is more than what they can bear. They are afraid to face reality all at once and so they hide behind this slow, dull, numbing pain that creates the illusion of things really not being all that bad.
The ironic thing is that it usually is never as bad as what we make it out to be in our minds. It’s this fear that keeps us on this slow and destructive course. We find ourselves doing the predicatable and safe but at the end of the day we stand deceived because reality isn’t represented.
In order to live a life loved, I’ve learned that reality in all it’s fullness must be present. If that means taking a shot of quick and intense hurt every now and again, then so be it. As much as it hurts; it has to be remembered that it only lasts an instant and in the end your time and your love are your most precious resources.
